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Raleigh Attorney: Despite Best Efforts To Save Marriage, Divorce May Be Only Option For Some Couples


Raleigh Attorney: Despite Best Efforts To Save Marriage, Divorce May Be Only Option For Some Couples

Generation X parents hoping to avoid divorces that impacted their childhood should first consider marriage counseling options, Raleigh divorce lawyer Charles R. Ullman says.

Raleigh, NC (PRWEB) August 09, 2011

More Generation X parents are staying in their marriages for the sake of their children, according to a recent Wall Street Journal article.

Because they grew up during a time when divorces peaked in the U.S., the article dubs members of Generation X – born between 1965 and 1980 – the “divorce generation.” Instead of putting their children through the same pain and confusion they may have experienced from their own parents' divorce, many Generation X parents are sticking together, the article says.

The writer cites U.S. Census data showing that 77 percent of the couples married since 1990 have now been together for at least 10 years.

Whether that approach is healthy for the couple and their family depends on the unique dynamics of the relationship, says Raleigh lawyer Charles R. Ullman. His Wake County family law firm assists clients throughout North Carolina with separation, divorce and related legal issues.

“In many cases, when parents dissolve their marriage, it can be difficult on their children,” Ullman says. “But the situation could be even more troubling for the children and parents alike if the marriage simply isn't working.”

Based on his experience as a North Carolina divorce attorney, Ullman says the common signs that a marriage is in danger are:

  •     Breakdowns in communication
  •     Isolation and alienation from each other
  •     Lack of intimacy
  •     Suspicion and distrust regarding important household matters, such as finances
  •     Frequent arguments
  •     Infidelity / extramarital affairs.

If these and other signs indicate that a couple's relationship is in trouble, it's important for the spouses to seek assistance from a marriage counselor or family counselor, Ullman says. His Raleigh family law firm's website provides a list of counselors throughout Wake County and the surrounding area.

“If a couple sincerely wants the marriage to stay together for the sake of their children, then it could be extremely helpful to receive guidance from a calm, trained counseling professional,” he says. “In some cases, the children may even be a part of the counseling sessions.”

Despite a couple's best efforts to save the marriage through counseling, trial separation or reconciliation, divorce may end up being the only option, according to Ullman.

If that is the case, it is important to work with an attorney who has the experience and sensitivity to steer a client through the emotionally charged issues that arise during the divorce process, including the determination of child custody and child support, he says.

“Parents who have tried staying in a marriage because they believed it was in the child's best interests can also put the child's best interests at the forefront during the divorce process,” Ullman says.

About Charles R. Ullman & Associates

The Raleigh family law firm of Charles R. Ullman & Associates, located at 109 S. Bloodworth St. in Raleigh, N.C., concentrates on family law, including divorce, child custody, child support, visitation, alimony, post-separation support and equitable distribution. Ullman is also a trained collaborative law attorney. For more information, contact the firm by calling (919) 829-1006 or use its online form.


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